In general, there are two modes in which you can go through life: The excited state and the unexcited state. Often we switch between those two states. When we find something or someone fascinating, we can get really excited quickly. And much sooner than we would like, our excitement diminishes after a while.
The Excited State
While excited, we feel great, we feel really alive. We may feel a positive kind of stress, eustress, while in that state, because we are very eager to do something about that which excites us. Not only our need for sleep is reduced in that state, but also our performance increases dramatically.

A visualization of how excitement blows your mind
Extreme forms of excitement are called mania or euphoria. They feel great, but they also have some drawbacks, like overestimating yourself (unrealistic optimistic thinking), and having difficulties to control yourself in a rather emotionally detached way. Nevertheless, we are strongly attracted towards these elevated states of mind.
Drug Use
Often this attraction is so strong that we indulge in rather irrational behavior in the hope to get into a state of euphoria. Using dangerous psychotropic drugs may work a few times, but the next time the high probably won’t be as high as the first times of drug use. However, drug use may be continued in the deluded hope that one can reach extreme heights again. And if these heights can’t be absolutely great again, then there’s still the hope to reach a state of mind that is significantly better than the status quo.
Of course, there are other factors that lead to a continuation of drug use, like habit, addiction, social pressure, but the main motive is still the wish for some kind of excitement. Personally, I don’t have a lot of experience with psychotropic drugs, but you don’t need a physical substance to induce an excited state of mind. While I played computer games excessively, I behaved similarly to a drug addict.
Computer Games
I would play games until they bored me to death just to get the last rest of excitement out of them. Then I switched to another game. A short phase of learning that game often was followed by a phase of intense excitement, in which my need for sleep was reduced by a few hours. These phases could last for days, weeks, or even months, and were the reason for playing the games in the first place.
In principle, playing computer game doesn’t have too big side effects, and it’s considered a more or less acceptable casual activity. But it’s a big drain of time that could be used more productively, or for more beneficial activities. Anyway, computer games make it easy to reach a state of relative excitement, which is an important reason why they are so popular.
It can be argued that computer games may have some positive effects (there’s also a wikipedia article about that topic), but an addiction isn’t very healthy. I for one couldn’t simply get rid of my addiction to that exciting activity without replacing it with another relatively exciting activity: Reading books.
Novelty And Excitement
My experience tells me that in those phases of my life in which I haven’t been playing computer games excessively, my level of excitement was mostly dependent on whether I was busy with diving into a very interesting topic or book, or not. When I started studying mathematics it was totally exciting, because of all the novelty and strangeness.
Nevertheless, that excitement wasn’t strong enough to compete with other interesting activities, so I didn’t become a “true math nerd”. The usual method of teaching mathematics involves rather bad game design (I really don’t want to go into details here, but you can read my post University drop out for some details). That’s the main reason why mathematics is so unpopular. I think the best way to learn mathematics is to learn it on your own terms, unrestricted by any fixed curriculum, or time- and performance pressure. Well, if you are able to do it that way, at least.
My Excitement About Pro Blogging
I was also very excited when I found a possible path to earn a living with blogging. At the time I’m writing this article, my chances are still quite unclear, but at least seeing such a great possibility has made me very excited. The critical insights that lead towards that realization were the thoughts which can be found in my article Capability Criticality: We Are Just As Good, Benevolent and Rational As Our Skills Permit.
To make this world a better place, we need to become better persons and help those around us to become better persons. And making them better doesn’t mean to annoy them with moral commandments, but to share valuable skills with them. Together with my own rapid personal progress this insight has shaped my vision to become a personal development blogger.
Although I was very excited about that idea, I haven’t chosen that path, because I was so excited about it, but because it deeply resonated with my skills and wishes. Probably the latter was also responsible for my excitement. Anyway, learning how to become a pro blogger is still very exciting for me. It’s quite a fresh and unexplored thing, compared to all the science and philosophy stuff I’ve been busy with before.
Sources Of Excitement
Other topics that got me very excited, and still get me very excited regularly, were the technological Singularity, fancy philosophical topics, fascinating science-fiction stories, and excellent self-help / personal development books. Basically, I can engage in those interests the whole day without getting really tired. Well, sometimes when I have to think too hard, I need a break, but essentially thinking about those topics makes me feel like using my whole potential, which feels great!
Certainly, you also have some interests that energize you more than everything else. Those interests you are so passionate about might be your greatest assets. After all, passion is a prerequisite for great success and happiness. I’ll tell you what is one of the biggest mistakes you can make while living your life: Not to engage in your passions!
Follow Your Passions For Great Success And Happiness
Why? That error will make you use less than your full potential. So, you will be less successful than a similar person who is more passionate than you, because that person uses her full potential. It won’t help you a lot, if you have more talent, or are more intelligent, as those attributes are secondary. Passion can trump them easily – especially if it’s combined with self-discipline and other skills that are essential for real success.
Oh, and it’s not only that you will be less successful than you could be, you will also be less happy, if you don’t follow your passions. No matter how long you try to refute that fact: Humans are no rational beings. They can be rational to some degree, but essentially they are driven by emotions. And that’s actually for a good reason! The part of your mind that works with emotions knows more about yourself than your rational part does. That’s why it can make superior decisions. And that’s why the following saying is so popular:
Listen to your heart!
How can you be happy, if you make bad decisions consistently? How can you be happy, if you don’t engage in your greatest interests? You actually might experience some happiness and some success, but why settle for that, if you can have so much more? And it’s not only you that would profit by following your passions, your whole environment will profit, too!
It’s not a lot of fun to work with people who are disinterested and dispassionate. By following their passions fully, and thus unlocking their full potential, people don’t only become more successful and valuable, they will also be more balanced, more interesting, and more fun to be around with.
On the other hand, spending no time on your passions can have quite the opposite effect, so that you get less energized, need more sleep, don’t have a lot of fun, are unhappy, and only work with a fraction of your full potential. You will fall into a state that I call the unexcited state.
The Unexcited State
In the absence of excitement, we are unexcited. That might be called normal life, but that doesn’t mean that it’s good. We do like being excited, so why is it that we fall back to a state devoid of strong passion and drive? It’s because we aren’t challenged in the right way!
You might very well feel totally challenged by what you are doing and think it’s very hard and requires all your effort and potential, yet you might fail to feel excited. It is important to make a distinction between a merely hard challenge and a really adequate challenge. If your challenge doesn’t resonate with your passions, it is not adequate to you, which makes it much harder than it would be, if you were passionate about it.
Just doing something which is hard and looks like a good idea to do might sounds like a good strategy, but it is doomed to failure or limited success, at best. You can’t live a really full life, if you don’t establish a congruence between what you do, and what you actually love to do.
Postponing Your Life To The Hypothetical Future
Now, you might argue that you will be able to live a full life later, once you’ve done a lot of work, and reached financial independence, or something like that. Ok, yeah, that sounds reasonable. But is it really reasonable? While you work in an unexcited state, how quickly can you move forward? How quickly can you achieve success in your career?
Let’s see: You need more sleep, and if you don’t get it, you feel like a zombie, unless you drink enough coffee to increase your energy level by chemical intervention. You are also slow to learn what you need to know, because you aren’t passionate about what you are doing. You may try hard, but still reach less than someone who outcompetes you by the power of his passion.
So, how are you going to reach financial independence that way? By working consistently for decades? Sure, that might work, but it won’t work well. And while it doesn’t work well, it wears you out. Perhaps you know the game: You get depressed or burnt out and ask yourself what went wrong, and may only get that answer with a chemical imbalance in your brain.
Sure, but that chemical imbalance is caused by a chronic lack of excitement. That’s the price for not following your greatest passions. Are you willing to pay it?
Living In The Unexcited State
Here’s how you recognize the unexcited state:
- You don’t feel a strong inner drive to do something.
- You have no cravings for that which makes you feel alive.
- You can control yourself, but only up to a certain degree, until you run out of energy (or spoons).
- You have difficulties getting out of bed.
- You get sick relatively often.
- You have trouble with concentrating on your work.
- Your victories feel shallow and can’t compensate you for the vast efforts you invested in achieving them.
- You feel unbalanced.
- You know there’s something wrong in your life, but you have difficulties pinpointing what it is.
- You might think you should feel good, but you actually don’t, and also don’t know why.
If that’s your normal state, you need to change your life. Find out what your greatest passions are, by listening deep into yourself. What would you do if nothing could stop you from doing it? If you had complete security?
Integrating Your Passions Into Your Life
Once you know about your greatest passions, it is time to integrate them into your life in an adequate way. Maybe you don’t know how to do that. In that case you can scan the web for ideas, ask friends or experts, or read book about your interests. If there really seems to be no way to bring your passions in harmony with the rest of the life, be creative and do something that has never been done before. That way, at least you can get some publicity.
In order to prevent falling back into the unexcited state, you have to know exactly what you really need. Excitement is a very fragile state, which can be destroyed by the tiniest error. If your excitement gets lost, you need to do something else, otherwise you won’t get it back. Trying the same unsuccessful approach again and again won’t help you here.
I often make the mistake of reading mediocre books. Then, after a while I notice that my excitement has gone, and wonder why I’ve lost it. Well, how can mediocre books get me really excited? They simply can’t! But I still read them out of the habit of reading books until I’m finished, and in the hope that at least some parts of them are great. Usually, that hope isn’t justified.
Feeding Your Passions
So, you have to know yourself very well. Listening to your gut feelings will help you find out what you really need most at the moment. Then go for exactly that, and not for something less that doesn’t resonate with your passions.
Integrate more of that what your are really passionate about into your life, and leave out more of the stuff that just drains your time, but doesn’t fill up your batteries. If you do that, your life will be marvelous.
Passion and excitement aren’t sufficient for success and happiness, but without them you can’t live your best life. Knowing about the importance of passion and excitement can make an enormous difference. Know yourself well, and your life will be amazing!